Disclaimer: I am a huge, weeby fan of Mieri Hieranashi and contributed to her patreon for many months, Do not expect anything like an “objective” review. I am about to gush.

The Girl That Can’t Get A Girlfriend is an autobiographical manga by a young butch lesbian who would like, very much, please, thank you, to find a butch girlfriend. This is, as many of us know – and some might guess – a complicated ask. It’s not that the lesbian butch/femme dynamic is a given, but human sexuality is a really complicated system and there are many moving parts to who we like and why.

….

Well…, maybe why isn’t that complicated.

Mieri, like so many of us, discovered Haruka and Michiru. ^_^

We’ve all been there. ^_^ (This is me, looking at the Sailor Moon fanfic I wrote in the late 90s through the 2000s.  I ain’t ashamed, it’s all still on my fanfic site.) But fanart is one thing and real life is another, as Mieri discovers, trying to find a partner and, ultimately herself.

When she finds a girlfriend in Japan, she falls in love and her whole world changes. We’re watching over her, like a virtual Maria-sama and can see that what feels to her to be the right choices may not be the best choices for her. We struggle with her struggle and hurt when her heart is broken. Can I be a literary nerd for a second? This is the manga equivalent of The Sorrows of Young Werther* and I wish to heavens I had had this when I was in college I would have compared and contrasted the shit out of it…I’d like to say “just to piss my teacher off,” but that teacher probably would have been cool with it.  Everything in this book is relatable even if a reader hasn’t experienced that specific thing. We know those feelings.

As a counterpoint to the emotional drama, The Girl That Can’t Get A Girlfriend is laugh-out-loud funny. Mieri’s use of meme is always spot on. Her own reminder to remember a potential date is also human had me laughing for a whole day.

You can feel the timeliness of the memifications and jokes. They will hold up as a snapshot of dating life in the early 21st century. My wife and I still joke about “today’s chin” from when I read that scene on Patreon.The humor is humorous, even when it’s a little sad or more than a little self-deprecating. There is a quite a bit of negative self-image in this story…again, relatable for most readers. Mieri presents the women she dates as dashing, while drawing herself a caricature with one exception. Did you catch the one panel where she doesn’t draw herself goofily? Tell me in the comments.

Mieri wrote both the Japanese and English script for this book and you can feel how personal it is to her in both the images and words. Which is why the final chapter is so important. We are carrying her burden along with her as she tells her tale. It is important for us as readers, that we are left with a hopeful look, not just for ourselves, but for her as well. Much like Kabi Nagata’s 282 liter refrigerator, we can see this book as a physical expression of her finding herself and triumphing.

Extras for this volume also include a gallery of sketches she did for the cover art. 28 sketches!?! Yikes, Viz.

Which brings me to one last thing I want to touch on. I had the pleasure of talking with one of the editors of this book at AnimeNYC. I want you all to know how enthusiastic Viz has been about publishing this book. I can see many of the changes made from the original Patreon pages and I could see how loud Viz was about letting people know about it.  This is a beautiful, heart-breaking and hilarious book about queer life and love.

Ratings:

Overall – Yes, Erica, what rating would you give this heart-rending, emotional autobiography?

9, goddammit, it’s a 9.

Absolute must-read for anyone who has ever existed as a human on this planet.

*Yes, I did just compare this book to a novel by Goethe. I will not apologize.